How Do I Fight The Lie?

I suffered from severe and advanced PTSD for most of my life.  PTSD nearly cost me my life.  When I was suffering from untreated PTSD I was a walking time bomb.  I was hyper-vigilant, angry, suffered from insomnia, night terrors, etc.  I also would have flashbacks that would affect me in a significant manner for days afterward.  I would be more than happy to share more of my experience if anyone is interested.

One of the first things my therapist taught me was to “Fight The Lie.”  I had no idea what he even meant.  I certainly didn’t know how to practice fighting the lie.  After months of therapy, prayer, support from my friends, family, and wife  I actually know how to the fight the lie and am successful most of the time.

This article (you can find a link at end of post) explains this much more clearly than I can.  Fighting the lie means that when negative, destructive, nagging lies pop in your head we must fight it.  For example, I had to fight a particular lie very often and I still do.  PTSD made me so alert and so hypervigilant that I was in combat mode 24/7/365.  When I started to get better and have enough control over my thoughts to realize when those negative thoughts attacked me I simply answered the lie back verbally.  For example, if my back was turned the back of a restaurant for 20 years I would sit facing the door.  The lie was that I am the only one that can keep me safe.  So, after my therapist told me about fighting the lie I started to practice.  Next time I sat without facing the door I would say out loud “I am safe.  I am not in a threatening position or location.  These folks are simply having a beer and/or getting something to eat.  I am not in danger.  Then I would take many long deep breaths.  After a while, it started to work.

If you are suffering, try to fight the lie.  Realize that with help you can teach your brain to forget.  I don’t think forget is the right word.  There is no way an incredibly traumatic event will ever be erased from your mind however, you can reach a place where you are able to put those thoughts and memories in their proper place.  And they do have a proper place.  Read this article and see if it helps you.  Perhaps you know someone who is suffering and you think this article may help them.  If you do know someone whom you think this can help then please forward it on.  Remember FIGHT THE LIE!!

Here is a link to the article.






Officer I Cant Tie My Tie

I haven’t posted a good cop/bad cop in a while.  I saw this story and it made me thankful that there are police officers out there like this officer.  The point isn’t that the man got away without a ticket.  The point is that community policing is the best way to earn the respect of the civilians that police officers work for. This type of behavior by cops will only increase the trust of the community they serve.  Trust by both the police and the community is the best stone to build good community policing on.  I can’t write it any better than the local news did.  So, what follows is the text of an article and the dash cam video published by the WBAY staff:

MENOMONIE, WI (WBAY) — An officer with the Menomonie Police Department went beyond the call of duty when he stopped a UW-Stout student for speeding.

In a dashcam video from Nov. 30, but only released by the police department Tuesday, the student tells Officer Martin Folczyk he’s late for giving a presentation in class and trying to find a friend who can tie his necktie.

Officer Folczyk asks him for his tie — even before he asks him for his driver’s license or proof of insurance.

The officer then ties the necktie and hands it over to the student, helping him to adjust it, which takes a couple of tries. The student was let go with a warning and a decently-knotted necktie.

Marijuana Smackdown I

Several weeks ago I saw an article published in a nationally recognized web-based magazine that approached marijuana legalization in a very irresponsible and intellectually dishonest manner.  At that time I said I would go through that article point by point.  I have changed my mind.  However, over the next few weeks, I will post several little mini-articles that address some of the most prevalent myths concerning marijuana.

Any controversial issue such as cannabis legalization can be a touchy subject. In addition to getting folks all fired up  the web and TV are filled with inaccurate information.  My goal is to simply state my opinion.  Most of my posts will deal with recreational marijuana because in my opinion medical marijuana doesn’t seem to cause as much confusion as legalization.

  1. Seven states and the District of Columbia have made the recreational use of cannabis legal.  Many people I have heard from are having a difficult time understanding the legal but regulated use of cannabis.  Just think alcohol.  The government sets a legal age of consumption and regulations that make it clear as to the particulars of use. While there is variance in the state laws concerning cannabis use and consumption there are also many similarities just are there are with alcohol laws and use across America.

One issue all of the states that have legalized cannabis agree on is the age of people who are legally allowed to use cannabis.  Here is a rundown of the legal age to purchase and consume cannabis.  Do you notice a similarity amongst the ages that each state has set for use?

California 21

Oregon 21 years

Washington 21 years

District of Columbia 21 years

Nevada 21 years

Massachusetts 21 years

Maine 21 years

Colorado 21 years

Alaska 21 years